The father's guide
Soothing a crying baby: why he cries, and what to do
Crying is the only way your baby has to tell you something. This page breaks down what it usually means, what actually helps — and what to do when your own patience runs out.
Why your baby cries
It isn't malice and it doesn't mean you're doing something wrong — it's the only tool he has. The usual reasons:
- Hunger.
- A dirty or wet nappy.
- Tiredness.
- Wanting to be held.
- Wind.
- Being too hot or too cold.
- Boredom, or overstimulation.
Source: NHS
Practical steps to soothe him
Try these, in whatever order suits him.
- Offer him milk if it's feeding time.
- Check his nappy and change it if needed.
- Hold him close and move gently — walk, sway, rock.
- Talk to him softly, or sing.
- Pat his back gently to help him burp.
Source: NHS
If you're the one who's overwhelmed
Your calm genuinely affects him. If the crying won't stop and you feel yourself getting tense: put him down safely in his cot, close the door, and go to another room. Set yourself a limit — ten minutes, say — then go back. Ask someone around you for help rather than pushing through alone.
Source: NHS
What's common
- Hunger.
- A dirty or wet nappy.
- Tiredness.
- Wanting to be held.
- Wind.
- Being too hot or too cold.
- Boredom, or overstimulation.
- Offer him milk if it's feeding time.
- Check his nappy and change it if needed.
- Hold him close and move gently — walk, sway, rock.
- Talk to him softly, or sing.
- Pat his back gently to help him burp.
When crying is a medical sign, not just crying
Contact your doctor if the crying comes with any of these — they point to something beyond the ordinary reasons above.
- A fever.
- Repeated vomiting, or refusing feeds altogether.
- Visible difficulty breathing.
- A cry that sounds unusually high-pitched or weak, or won't settle no matter what you try.
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When should I worry about how much he's crying?
Ordinary crying responds, eventually, to feeding, changing, holding or sleep. If nothing works, or the crying comes with a fever, vomiting, or breathing trouble, call your doctor.
Does picking him up every time spoil him?
No. Responding to a newborn's crying builds his sense of safety — it tells him you're there, not that he can manipulate you.
Sources
- Soothing a crying babyNHS · retrieved 2026-09-16
This guide is general information, not medical advice. It does not replace a doctor, and it knows nothing about your particular pregnancy. If something feels wrong, contact your doctor instead of waiting for the next scheduled visit.
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